Family, Wife Preparations

Mother Preparations (Motherhood)

Mother Preparations (Motherhood)
Today as we celebrate Mother’s Day a nurse who is the mother of four gave us some sound advice and I just felt led to share what I learnt.
She said that being a good mother and a good wife is properly the hardest test in the world as they entail many challenges. So before a young woman decides to become a mother or wife she has to be fully prepared, best advice is to wait until one is fully ready and prepared to handle the responsibility.
She stressed on the pain, struggles during pregnancy and during labour, the morning sickness, contractions and the cutting of the vagina to remove the child. All the details painted a graphic picture, one of pain and torment that made motherhood look scary. However, she quickly mentioned that after the child is born the mid wife places that child on your abdomen, you are given the child to hold and a bond is created, she says she has witnessed every mother cry at that stage.
Having a supportive partner at that time is also encouraging as a woman goes through all sorts of moods and phases so that is why it is important to wait and settle with a good helpful mate. Not one who will cheat or belittle you when you gain a few extra pounds.
In addition she told us of the character one has to display as a good mother and wife, when the children break your valuables and you are stressed and feel like giving up, she said to exercise peace, love, long suffering, meekness etc. She told of the importance of showing equal love to all children as children tend to get jealous of each other and to also train them up well in the Lord. Training starts from birth and one should use the word (bible) as the manual.
As a good wife and mother one should be faithful to their children and husband, and a wife has the responsibility to look good and take care of herself even after she has had a long day.
All in all, a good mother is one who is strong, faithful, hardworking and loving. Motherhood is challenging but the reaped benefits are worth it.
Written by
Laurna Guiste

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Family, Relationships and Marriage, Wife Preparations

Wife preparations PART TWO (couple reminders)

Wife preparations PART TWO (couple reminders)
Recent advice given to me by a friend for young women aspiring to be wives.
Firstly one should be in this for the marriage and not only want a wedding. It is a lifelong commitment, after the reception and the honeymoon is over, you have to wake up to this person for the rest of your life.
A wife should be able to take care of whatever her husband provides for her and the home. For instance a husband provides groceries, the wife is to be able to cook and prepare that food. He builds a house; she ought to make that house into a home. Make it inviting and welcoming, keep it clean and peaceful. The place her husband considers his haven, his sweetest place.

A wife should embrace her husband’s friends. She should allow him to bring his friends home, if having his friends over is a problem then the husband will go out to meet his friends and hence she will see less of him. Never make a man choose between you and his friends as his boys” and family, where there before you.

Always allow your husband to have the final say, voice your opinion, bring ideas to the table, but as the head of the house your husband should have the final say, so at the end of the day he can never blame you for it.

A wife should be positive, easy to talk to, and trust her husband. Though a man may have many female friends whom he flirts with doesn’t mean he’s sleeping with them. He married you, he chose you over them because there is something about you that stood out, so be secure that he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you only.
Written by Laurna Guiste

Wife preparations is a special blog corner aimed at encouraging young women aspiring to be great wives, giving training tips and advice. My aim is to raise an awareness of what marriage entails and to ensure that we know what we as young women are heading into and what is expected of us.