christain, Poetry Corner, Wife Preparations

Ladies, Listen up!

Dear Ladies,

Learn to love yourself enough that men wont feel like they are doing you a favor when they pass you on the streets to say hey,ensure the reason why they stopped to have a talk with you is because of the radiance of your smile and not that skirt that’s exposes all your thighs. Ladies get to know yourself before you allow any man to know you,be wise enough to not let a man seduce you into his bed by the mare smell of his skin,swaying of his tongue and look of his eyes,ladies be strong and like the women of the bible let him work hard to get to know the real you.

Ladies wear your crowns with pride,strive for modesty,honesty,don’t let these players push it to the side and rape the standards that you placed so high, don’t let it fall to pieces just because he knew the right lines.

Ladies you are one to be courted,loved and respected, fearfully and wonderfully made,you’re valuable,precious for on the cross your price was paid,no man can love you more than Christ, for you He gave  His life,and He doesn’t want you to trade  His temple,your body for rice.

You are a queen who deserves  a king who knows how to lead you,a man who cares,loves and protects you, he will be honest and won’t mislead you,he’ll fast and pray and serve with you.A man of God that He  will help find you.

So ladies wait as God prepares you

Written by

Laurna Guiste

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Relationships and Marriage, Wife Preparations, Writers Space

Dream VS Lesson

Dream I had recently
I got the inspiration to write about a dream I had recently due to a blog a sister shared and I found them to be sort of similar, I guess it was a reminder and a need to share this message with you guys.
I dreamed I was getting married and on the wedding day the groom was nowhere to be seen, my family were busy into catering and I got really puzzled as to who he was. After much confusion I decided I was going to call off the wedding, but I was too ashamed/embarrassed to inform my family since they already had prepared everything.

confused bride

In my pursuit of locating the groom at the church I saw my ex sitting at the front row, I rushed up to him and hoped he was the groom, getting closer to him I realized he was dressed shabbily but had his usual big smile on his face, we greeted each other and I sat next to him and I couldn’t understand why he wasn’t my groom. The entire church was waiting and I didn’t know who my husband was.
I was persuaded there was no wedding and had to end this charade, as I was about to make the announcement the setting changed to the reception area, and here comes the groom through the doors surrounded by people, he was smiling and waving everyone and guess what ..he was a Muslim.

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He wasn’t what I was expected but he was drop dead gorgeous, I remember thinking that our religion/beliefs were different but he was good looking and that was enough for me. I quickly jumped on his arm and headed at the back of the church. When it was time to walk down the aisle I rushed up to my brother who was the dj and asked him to play my wedding song by Johnny Gill he couldn’t find it on the computer got pissed as I realized I never saved it in my playlist. So I told him to play anything , minutes later we were walking down the aisle dancing to this loud obnoxious, out of place soca music and the weird thing is we were all dancing and moving to it. Lolz
MORALE OF THE DREAM
As I survey this dream I realize that I got married for the wrong reason, I fell for this guy’s looks without any regard to his background, beliefs, goals, morals or anything deep or permanent rooted in the core of his being. All I saw was the outside, I became infatuated, lusted and was stirred by mare feelings instead of pondering the life changing decision I was making. Marriage as we know should be forever, and love is not mare looks, it is patient, kind and comes with forming a deep connection, it is acceptance of that persons good and bad, cherishing and caring for them beyond your soul regardless of how they look or what they have done.

I guess this dream proves how shallow we women and men can sometimes be when it comes to choosing a mate for life, I bet looks is on top of that list. Also, love shouldn’t be rushed, or confusing, in the dream I didn’t even know the man I was going to get married to, I was disorganized and seemed lost.

Marriage should be planned, organized and you both should be on the same level, romantically, spiritually, socially, overall you should want the same things, you should take time to know each other and decide if you can handle this for life. Notice I said looks and not attraction, I support that you be attracted to your mate 100% and have of course chemistry, what I am referring to here is beauty and charm, appealing body types, love is more than the physical and it is kept by nothing else than a strong foundation which is God.

Written by
Laurna Guiste

Family, Wife Preparations

Mother Preparations (Motherhood)

Mother Preparations (Motherhood)
Today as we celebrate Mother’s Day a nurse who is the mother of four gave us some sound advice and I just felt led to share what I learnt.
She said that being a good mother and a good wife is properly the hardest test in the world as they entail many challenges. So before a young woman decides to become a mother or wife she has to be fully prepared, best advice is to wait until one is fully ready and prepared to handle the responsibility.
She stressed on the pain, struggles during pregnancy and during labour, the morning sickness, contractions and the cutting of the vagina to remove the child. All the details painted a graphic picture, one of pain and torment that made motherhood look scary. However, she quickly mentioned that after the child is born the mid wife places that child on your abdomen, you are given the child to hold and a bond is created, she says she has witnessed every mother cry at that stage.
Having a supportive partner at that time is also encouraging as a woman goes through all sorts of moods and phases so that is why it is important to wait and settle with a good helpful mate. Not one who will cheat or belittle you when you gain a few extra pounds.
In addition she told us of the character one has to display as a good mother and wife, when the children break your valuables and you are stressed and feel like giving up, she said to exercise peace, love, long suffering, meekness etc. She told of the importance of showing equal love to all children as children tend to get jealous of each other and to also train them up well in the Lord. Training starts from birth and one should use the word (bible) as the manual.
As a good wife and mother one should be faithful to their children and husband, and a wife has the responsibility to look good and take care of herself even after she has had a long day.
All in all, a good mother is one who is strong, faithful, hardworking and loving. Motherhood is challenging but the reaped benefits are worth it.
Written by
Laurna Guiste

Family, Relationships and Marriage, Wife Preparations

Wife preparations PART TWO (couple reminders)

Wife preparations PART TWO (couple reminders)
Recent advice given to me by a friend for young women aspiring to be wives.
Firstly one should be in this for the marriage and not only want a wedding. It is a lifelong commitment, after the reception and the honeymoon is over, you have to wake up to this person for the rest of your life.
A wife should be able to take care of whatever her husband provides for her and the home. For instance a husband provides groceries, the wife is to be able to cook and prepare that food. He builds a house; she ought to make that house into a home. Make it inviting and welcoming, keep it clean and peaceful. The place her husband considers his haven, his sweetest place.

A wife should embrace her husband’s friends. She should allow him to bring his friends home, if having his friends over is a problem then the husband will go out to meet his friends and hence she will see less of him. Never make a man choose between you and his friends as his boys” and family, where there before you.

Always allow your husband to have the final say, voice your opinion, bring ideas to the table, but as the head of the house your husband should have the final say, so at the end of the day he can never blame you for it.

A wife should be positive, easy to talk to, and trust her husband. Though a man may have many female friends whom he flirts with doesn’t mean he’s sleeping with them. He married you, he chose you over them because there is something about you that stood out, so be secure that he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you only.
Written by Laurna Guiste

Wife preparations is a special blog corner aimed at encouraging young women aspiring to be great wives, giving training tips and advice. My aim is to raise an awareness of what marriage entails and to ensure that we know what we as young women are heading into and what is expected of us.